22 August 2010

oh dear....

"As the brain matures, one thing that happens is the pruning of the
synapses. Synaptic pruning does not occur willy-nilly; it depends
largely on how any one brain pathway is used. By cutting off unused
pathways, the brain eventually settles into a structure that's most
efficient for the owner of that brain, creating well-worn grooves for
the pathways that person uses most. Synaptic pruning intensifies after
rapid brain-cell proliferation during childhood and again in the
period that encompasses adolescence and the 20s. It is the mechanism
of "use it or lose it": the brains we have are shaped largely in
response to the demands made of them."

I guess this explains why I can't do math anymore, even though I used
to be pretty darn good at it."

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/22/magazine/22Adulthood-t.html?pagewanted=4&ref=general&src=me

21 August 2010

iris is just like us.

and the older she gets, the more we can tell. It's so encouraging for
me, especially, since it appears that most of my physical traits got
beaten by Roy's genes, to know that she has other traits, like
expressions, or weird preferences that I can say, "you got that from
me! sorry."

for instance, she is just like me in that when she's in the bath and
gets a hair on her hand, she cries until i take it off for her. you
might not know that about me, but I HATE disembodied hairs. it's one
of the grossest things ever. She is apparently just as disturbed by
them as I am.

and she is like roy in the way she keeps moving the stool that i like
to sit on while i cook (or wait for things to cook) back to the table
where it goes.

We think she is on the cusp of being ready to potty train. anybody
have any suggestions about best methods? she's still really young, but
she knows the ideas of peepee and poop and the potty, and doesn't like
being in wet diapers. additionally, it would be FANTASTIC to have only
one kid in diapers at a time.

also I have come to the realization that all the paper, journals,
sketchbooks, etc., that I have saved thinking I might one day develop
a creative genius were REALLY saved so that Iris could scribble on
them. It's so nice to know that they won't be wasted. We got her some
chunky crayons, and it's really amazing how her skills are developing.
She mostly colors on paper that we give her, but sometimes she gets on
the floor, too. And we write her name, for her, too: "EYE - ARE - EYE
- ESS, Iris!" when I say the "Iris" part, I alway make a line under
the word. I'm wondering if that will make her think her name always
has a line underneath it, but I guess that's what school is for, to
fix things like that.

Baby Jonas is due in eleven weeks and one day. We still have a lot to
do to get ready for him, but I think we'll be fine. If anyone has any
baby boy clothes they want to pass on to us, we'll take them. Also I
have been wondering about how to make the transition easier for Iris.
I really don't want to have to tell her that when she was little she
tried to hurt him or anything like that. She seems to be okay with
babies, but she also likes to play with their toys. And she is not
good at all with sharing with older kids. And Jonas will have to take
over a lot of things that she's thought of as hers, like her baby
swing and bouncy seat...I'm a little concerned. The whole big girl
concept doesn't seem to have too much weight with her yet. So, did you
do something to prepare your first child for the second? Iris will be
25 months when Jonas comes. My favorite plan is to get a pet that she
can spend time on/with and be distracted by, but then it seems silly
to add that to a household already going through upheaval. Am I making
too big a deal of this?

Also, soon the RUF at AAMU website will be live. We'll put the address
here as soon as it's up. I am kinda wary of publicly bragging on Roy,
because I just don't think he appreciates it like other people might,
but it's really great to see him get to be a minister of the gospel.
And the website looks great, too. But ask in me in person about him
and I can tell you how wonderful he is. Also, if you want to support
us, this might be the easiest way: www.ruf.org/donate/ or if you just
want to get a support letter and haven't, leave a comment. I think we
could send out emails with a pdf, even though I personally like
sending out paper copies. Our next support letter comes out in
September, but we can send you our summer one first. I'm really
excited about the start of our ministry here, even though I doubt I'll
be doing that much for it, besides taking care of Roy and opening our
home to students--not that I don't think that is important, because I
do, I just feel really PREGNANT.

Also, extra points go to the person who can guess why I love the name
Jonas. I'm thinking that Paula La and Caroline Kimbrough might have
the best chance at this.

Come see us in Huntsville. We have lots of room for guests, and it's
lots easier for me for people to come to my house instead of the other
way. Baby Jonas and I do not travel well.

09 August 2010

27 weeks...

Jonas can live outside the womb now if necessary. Hopefully he'll get
to stay in there for another 13 or 12 weeks or so, but he doesn't have
to!

Also, Iris pointed at my belly this morning and said "baby!" hopefully
that means she won't be too surprised when Jonas is born.

How are you?